Recently there was a teen suicide in a town near us. It happened in the school. We forget sometimes just how hard it is to be a teenager. School mates can be very cruel and mean. Teens are trying to find themselves, and if the high school environment is harsh, cruel and not accepting, it can be a very rocky road for a teen to ride. As parents of teens we need to listen to our youth and spend as much time with them as we can. We really need to develop that relationship before they become a teen. Their is a constant struggle going on in the teens life. They are growing up and should be getting more independent. But parents know that this time can be a time when decisions and feelings may lead their teen down a path that could be damaging. So we try to guide and help the best we can. Lots of pray is in order that is for sure. I know I was not a perfect parent,,, just ask my grown children! Teens want to run their own lives. They think they know it all, but just ask any adult in their 40's if they knew it all as a teen they will tell you they thought they did, but did not have a clue! Teens need to know above all that their parents care and wiill always be there for them and take time to listen to them. Coaching is in order and time spent listening. Sometimes the best way a teen will learn is to make their own mistakes. Sometimes they need to guided out of a dangerous path onto a safe one. But parents need to listen and pray so they can be given discernment. Ultimately, we are dependent on the Lord as parents to guide us in our parenting.
Training can also be in order for parents. There are many good books and resources available.Last year in our church we offered a Sunday School class that was on parenting for about 4 months. Sadly not too many took the class. How many times have I seen as a pastor where parents get in a critical situation and wish they would of had some training? Many.
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